This article is all about the importance of actively choosing what you want vs. who and what chooses you.

Life presents us with a stream of opportunities. Some of us may feel that we’re exposed to more opportunities than others given our ability to see an opportunity or be open to it. Let’s explore your ability to choose what you uniquely want and desire in this life.

At the end of the day we all ultimately are choosing our reality, for better or for worse. With believing that’s true or not, even no choice is a choice. My goal is to open your eyes to the fact that just because someone or something chooses you, that doesn’t mean that you need to reciprocate the kind gesture. It’s true in life that some people, places and things, even “good” and “amazing” ones might not be for us.

Not everything or everyone is for us.

Someone might want to date us, marry us, hire us, hang around us, travel with us, etc. This is amazing. Of course people want you by their side or on their team. You’re a gem of human and you’re desired.

Again, just because someone is choosing you, doesn’t mean that you need to choose them.

I’ve seen in my experience that some people have gotten into the habit of going with whatever or whoever shows up without using any sort of discernment around if the person or opportunity is a good fit.

The problem here is that you’re giving your power away when you’re not actively making the choices that are authentic to you. You are also getting further away from who you are as you say yes, or causally fall into what’s in front of you without using discernment. We probably have all found ourselves in situations that “sorta fell in our lap.” Sometimes these situations are ideal and in alignment with what we want and what we stand for, and sometimes they’re not.

The key is to have enough self awareness to be able to discern what choices or paths you want to take and which ones you choose to bypass.

This post is just a friendly reminder to check in with your “picker” to make sure that you’re in the drivers seat of your life. Not to say that there’s not a time and place to go with the flow and say yes to things you wouldn’t usually say yes too. That’s how we grow and expand. The key is to choose while using your self awareness to “go with” a presented opportunity that breeds your curiosity vs. blinding going toward a situation with no thought on the matter.

Here’s a youtube video that I did on the topic. Enjoy. Cheers friends. Good luck with weeding through all that life will bring your way.

*Blog Image by Photographer & Creator of honeyandgarden, Renata Amazonas.

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