Kim Egel

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Healthy Perspectives for a New Year

Just as the weather varies, the same is true for our emotional state. It changes. It shifts. We experience all kinds of emotions as we go through our days.

The changing of emotions is not a negative unless we see it to be. It’s neutral. It is what it is. It’s the human experience.

There’s a healthy range of contrast that your emotions will naturally go through. Accepting the contrast of your emotional life will bring much less suffering and more peace to your days.

 (*For this post, I’m referring to a healthy range of emotions. I’m not speaking to unstable emotional states that dip dramatically and cause problems in your career and/or personal life.)

It can be snowing (figuratively) in your world emotionally and then quickly become sunny; just like that.

Meaning, you could be fired by your job and two weeks later land the business opportunity that you’ve been waiting for.

You can be devastated by a break up and then fall back in love months later.

It can happen. It does happen.

Things can change fast in life. Things do change fast in life.

When you’re living fully your emotional world will have turbulence and fluctuations. That’s the consequence of putting yourself “out there” in the world and taking chances.

How well you navigate your life’s “turbulence,” meaning the different states, moods, emotions and experiences, will dictate your level of happiness. Judgement of your circumstances and seeing them as “bad” will bring you sorrow and pain. Viewing your life as a constant opportunity to learn and grow will help you keep your spirits bright, even within the darkness.

The judgement of your current circumstance effects your emotional state more so than the actual event.

Remember this, as this will always be true.

It’s not what happens to you; it’s how you perceive what is happening.

Resistance toward what is happening will always make things harder than they actually are.

This is not to discount your pain. Rather, it’s to highlight what you can control, which is your perspective.

Do your best to see things as they are. Watch any tendency to taint an experience with a negative story or judgment . This will help you to see things with more clarity and truth.

In a nutshell, it’s how you decide to feel about what’s happening to you and the labels that you put upon your circumstance that dictates how you will feel and, furthermore, how your life plays out.

One thing to remember if you’re in the mist of an emotionally difficult time is that a mental blue bird sky is coming. Meaning, a break from “the hard.”

What’s a blue bird sky? 

definition: denoting or relating to a period of time characterized by sunny, cloudless weather, typically after a night of snowfall.

WAIT. FOR. THE. BLUE BIRD. SKY. AS. IT. WILL. EVENTUALLY. APPEAR.

Just as fast as a storm can push out and leave a blue bird sky, the circumstances of your life can change on a dime. 

A love can appear. A positive opportunity can present. A new friendship can blossom. New people, places and things are waiting to engage with you if you can open your eyes to the possibilities.

You have to believe that good things can and will happen for you; for good things to come your way.

why would you think that good things can’t happen for you?

why would you think that you are exempt from experiencing the beautiful things that life holds?

why would you be the one left out from experiences that you desire?

(*Feel free to use these journal prompts to explore any blocks that are limiting your happiness and belief in positive outcomes.)

Sometimes, we can’t imagine anything changing in our lives and feel extremely stuck in our circumstances. If you can gain flexibility in your thinking to believe that things can shift and change, movement and flow will increase around you and you will find your circumstances shifting.

JUST. AS. A. BLUE BIRD. SKY. GOES. FROM. GREY. TO. BLUE.

THE. CIRCUMSTANCES. OF. YOUR. LIFE. CAN. IMPROVE. WITH. GOOD PERSPECTIVE. WELL INTENTION. AND. BELIEF. IN. POSSIBILITIES.

Please remember these words, especially in times where life presents you with its hardships and challenges.

Happy 2023. Wishing you joy, good things, adventures, growth and sending you love and good energy to catapult this year. Yew!

Thanks for being here with me.

*Above image is by photographer, Ashley Williams.

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