If you struggle with chronic anxiety and fear of what will be, this one’s for you. 

If there’s anything that this time is showing us (it has the potential to show us a lot because that’s what challenging times do) it’s revealing that no matter how much we plan and anticipate life to go in a certain direction, life has it’s own plan. 

So much suffering and pain is experienced when we are rigid and fixed on how we think life should and ought to look in order to be happy. With being on the other end of several clients at this point in my practice, I’ve found that the relationship that we each have with control and trust is a huge indicator of how happy we ultimately are. Meaning, if we have a healthy and balanced relationship with trust and control, we will have less suffering and live our days more peacefully than the other who has a tumultuous relationship with those two concepts.

When we begin to peel away the layers of all the external things and accomplishments that we’re looking to for certainty and start releasing our need for things to look and be the way we think they should look and be, something really interesting starts to happen. No matter what, when we release control and start practicing acceptance (less control) and hope (more trust), we start feeling better no matter where we’re at in our lives. 

So simple and complicated at the same time, right? I hear you, let me go further to keep it simple.

As we start to feel better because we ‘re choosing to trust, we start calling in and naturally gravitating toward us the experiences, people and places that we desire. All we have to do is let go of CONTROL and TRUST that something is going to catch us if we jump. (I know, this is so uncomfortable because, I mean who is going to catch us?!) Again, that’s control talking because it wants to know and confirm who that individual or thing will be that will break our fall.

The thing is, life doesn’t work like that. When we start accepting that concept, we are pushed toward trusting.

I can’t tell you, nor can anyone for that matter, what the specifics will be for your life. I’m not sure who or when the next pivotal person will enter your life. I don’t know when the next moment will be that’s going to make you smile and warm your heart. I don’t know who is going to say the next thing that makes you think or gets you curious. I don’t know when the next opportunity for you to grow is going to be knocking at your door. I don’t know when your going to be confronted with your next difficult challenge. 

I do know, that those moments are all going to unfold for you because that’s what life does. Life presents us with moments and people and when we’re less in control and more present we can experience and feel those moments more clearly. 

The only thing that you need to have to feel more calm while actually enjoying the unique unfolding of your life is trust and confidence in your ability to handle what’s thrown at you. When we TRUST ourselves it actually doesn’t matter who shows up, or who doesn’t for that matter.  The specifics of our life doesn’t matter as much when we have complete trust in ourselves because self trust allows us to feel secure and safe, no matter what. It’s an illusion when we feel that any person place or thing outside of ourself is “making us” feel safe. We can only do that for ourselves. When we trust ourself and consistently and steadily have our own back, we start giving less “you know what’s” about what unfolds because we’re more focused on the moment by moment of being present in our lives. 

Being present is where happy lives. 

I hope this post finds you well in this uncertain time. I know it’s a challenging time for all of us collectively. I hope that the words within this post bring you some comfort and help you to trust the process of your life, no matter what’s going on for you at the moment. 

Be well friends.